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    Positive Adoption Language
    
 
    Language affects everyone. It is an especially powerful tool in shaping 
      a child's self-concept. Therefore, adoption language should be positive 
      to avoid hurting those persons involved in adoption, especially the children. 
    
 
    
      
        Say This... | 
        Instead of This... | 
       
      
        | Birth Parent | 
        
        Real Parent | 
       
      
        | Biological Parent | 
        
        Natural Parent | 
       
      
        | Birth Child | 
        
        Own Child | 
       
      
        | My Child | 
        
        Adopted Child | 
       
      
        | Born to Unmarried 
        Parents | 
        
        Illegitimate | 
       
      
        | Relinquish Rights | 
        
        Give Away | 
       
      
        | Terminate Parental 
        Rights | 
        
        Take Away | 
       
      
        | Waiting Child | 
        
        Available Child | 
       
      
        | Parent | 
        
        Adoptive Parent | 
       
      
        | Child Placed for 
        Adoption | 
        
        Unwanted Child | 
       
      
        | Child with Special 
        Health Care Needs | 
        
        Handicapped Child | 
       
     
    
     
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