So how do I abstain?

Make the commitment. Think about all the reasons it makes sense to choose abstinence and then decide you’re going to do it. Make a promise to yourself; we tend to keep promises. Write it down and tell someone you trust that you have made the choice to be abstinent. Writing things down and telling a friend help us keep our commitments.

Avoid situations that could lead you to break the promise. Avoid situations where you could have sex. For example, if you’re at your boyfriend or girlfriend’s house when there is no one else home, things can happen before you know it.

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