Develop a Safety Plan

Deciding Whether or Not to go on a Date

• Know about the person who ask you out before you say "yes"
• Review the "Warning Signs" to see if this person fits into any of the categories
• Do any of your good friends warn you about going out with this person?
• Are your friends afraid for your safety if you go out with this person?
• Do you have gut feelings of concern when you think about saying "yes" to this person?

Going on the Date

• Until you get to know your date better, double-date with trusted friends or hang out in a group
• Plan to go on your dates in public places
• If for any reason you become uncomfortable while on a date, make your concerns know immediately
• Do not allow yourself to be pressured by your date. Trust your ability to decide what’s going on between the two of you.
• Have money with you in case you need to use the telephone and know where they are located.
• Be aware of the location of the telephones and exit doors

Leaving an Abusive Relationship

End the relationship over the phone where the abuser can not hurt you

If possible, don’t walk to school alone. You are safer when you are with other people

Lock the doors and windows in your house. When you are alone, do not let your abuser in, no matter what the abuser says.

Call the police and get some help if the abuser is hurting you or if you are in danger

Take your abuser seriously when the abuser threatens to kill you or someone close to you.
Abusers have not limits to what they will do, regardless of the consequences.

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